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Donor families and loved ones

If you are grieving, you are not alone.

Everyone experiences grief differently. During the donation process, our family care team can help you find grief resources, explore ways to honor your loved one, and understand your options for communicating with transplant recipients.

Honoring your loved one

Keep their generosity close.

Families often look for ways to keep a loved one’s memory and generosity alive. These are options, never obligations; choose what feels right, when it feels right.

The Wall of Heroes and its surrounding memorial garden in San Antonio.

San Antonio

Wall of Heroes

Honoring the people whose generosity made the gift of life possible.

Our Wall of Heroes in San Antonio honors organ donors with engraved medals bearing a first name and last initial. The surrounding memorial garden offers a place to reflect and remember. Its eight flowering ornamental trees represent the eight lives one organ donor can save.

Use our scheduling page to request a visit. Our team can offer guidance and support; call Family Services if you need help scheduling or have special requests.

The Dallas Donor Memorial Garden courtyard with the Tree of Remembrance’s engraved-leaf memorial walls, sculpture, and fountain.

Dallas

Donor Memorial Garden

Remembering donor heroes at the Tree of Remembrance.

The Donor Memorial Garden in Dallas honors donor heroes with a memorial wall of engraved leaves called the Tree of Remembrance. It offers families and loved ones a place to remember those whose generosity made the gift of life possible.

Memorial gifts

Memorial gifts support our donation mission and can mark milestones and build a lasting legacy. Explore memorial contributions and suggested wording for an obituary or remembrance.

Memorial and tribute gift reports can include contributor names and gift amounts shared with the honored person’s family. If you prefer a private or anonymous gift, indicate your preference when contributing; contact our giving team if you need help with those options.

Giving opens on an external platform. Choose a one-time or monthly gift there, and review the receiving organization, gift frequency, and any fees before completing your contribution.

Giving by check

For a gift by check, contact our giving team to confirm the current payee and mailing instructions before sending funds. Include the tribute name and the information needed to notify the family.

Written tributes

Adapt these examples with your loved one’s name and words that reflect your family’s experience.

Memorial program
In loving memory of [Name]. Their generosity as a donor lives on in the lives of others, and in the hearts of all who loved them.
Obituary
[Name] gave the gift of life through organ and tissue donation. In lieu of flowers, the family invites memorial gifts in support of organ and tissue donation.
Memorial giving wording
In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made in memory of [Name] to support Gift of Life Alliance’s organ and tissue donation mission. Please contact the giving team for contribution instructions.

More ways to honor a hero

Hope Ambassador program

Share your loved one’s story through community events, education, advocacy, and public speaking. The volunteer program provides training and tools to help you share the message of donation.

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Hope Starts Here 5K

This annual event brings donor families, recipients, and friends together to honor donors. Read about the 2026 gathering and how families created teams in memory of loved ones.

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Fundraising and community support

Our programs, events, and peer-to-peer fundraising support donor families, transplant recipients, and communities. Explore ways to support our mission and honor the gift of life.

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Donor families

Compassionate care through loss.

Donor families receive compassionate care during the donation process as they navigate loss. Grief is natural and there is no right way or timeline for it.

Donor-family letter guidance
  • Writing is optional and you may do it whenever you are ready. There is no minimum or maximum amount of time.
  • Before including identifying details, ask our Family Services team about confidentiality and consent. Requirements may vary by transplant center and correspondence service; do not assume your letter will be anonymous.
  • Staff review the letter and forward it through the transplant center, and let the family know if a letter is returned.
  • Correspondence with tissue recipients may require the recipient to write first. Our team can explain the process that applies to your family.
  • A response is never promised.
Prepare and send your letter

Writing is a personal choice, with no time limit. A letter, greeting card, or anniversary message can share memories of your loved one. You may send different letters to each recipient or use the same message. Keep language simple and be considerate about religious comments, since recipients’ beliefs may differ.

Before sharing identifying information

Include only what you are comfortable sharing. A last name, phone number, email, social profile, or other identifying detail in your message may enable direct contact. Ask our Family Services team about the privacy and consent requirements that apply before sharing identifying information.

Sending your correspondence

  1. Put your letter or card in an unsealed envelope.
  2. On a separate sheet, include your full name, your loved one’s full name, the donation date, and your contact information.
  3. Mail it to Donor Family Services at the address below, or use the email link to send your correspondence to our team. If you already have a correspondence contact, confirm the mailing instructions with that contact first.
Donor Family Services
5051 Hamilton Wolfe Rd.
San Antonio, TX 78229-4455

Our team forwards correspondence through the recipient’s transplant center; review and delivery may take several weeks. A reply is not guaranteed. Before considering a meeting, both parties should take time to explore how they feel about direct contact and discuss arrangements with their support teams.

Free online grief courses and webinars

We offer donor families access to a free course library developed with What’s Your Grief that can be explored from home. Topics include grief foundations, traumatic loss, holidays and special days, parenting while grieving, children’s grief, and creative approaches such as journaling and photography. The library also includes webinar recordings and information about live events.

Find regional and national grief support
Grief reading for different ages

Selected English-language books from our reading list. Titles are shown in their original language; ask a librarian or support professional about age-appropriate editions and translated alternatives.

For children

  • Children Also Grieve: Talking about Death & Healing — Linda Goldman
  • When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death — Laurie Krasny Brown & Marc Brown
  • Lifetimes: The Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children — Bryan Mellonie & Robert Ingpen
  • A Birthday Present for Daniel: A Child’s Story of Loss — Juliet Rothman

For teens

  • Straight Talk about Death for Teenagers — Earl A. Grollman
  • The Grieving Teen — Helen Fitzgerald
  • Fire in My Heart, Ice in My Veins — Enid Samuel Traisman

For adults and donor families

  • Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss — Pat Schwiebert
  • Healing After Loss — Martha Whitmore Hickman
  • For Those Who Give and Grieve: A Book for Donor Families — National Kidney Foundation
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Honoring donors

Donor stories

Each donor was someone deeply loved. These stories celebrate who they were, the lives they touched, and the lasting gift they gave through donation.

  • Portrait of Daniel

    Daniel

    Daniel was born on New Year's Day, 1986 and five days later he was adopted.

    Read story: Daniel

    Daniel was born on New Year's Day, 1986 and five days later he was adopted. His family welcomed him with his big Texas smile into their hearts and home. As he grew, he was always very caring and loved by many. His favorite saying was "I got your back." In retrospect, being an organ donor is the ultimate "got your back" and his family knew that is what Daniel would have wanted. After high school, Daniel took entry level jobs, learning to live away from home and making decisions about college. But his plans were cut short on a bright January Saturday by a common driving error, a split second that would change lives forever.

    Organ donation wasn't the first thing Daniel's family thought of but when it was mentioned, it seemed that a bright light entered their hearts. The family had heard of donation before as Daniel's brother Jonathan had received a human aortic valve transplant seven years prior. In the warm, supportive process of meeting with an organ procurement nurse, they agreed to anything Daniel could share. On February 5, 2005, at only 19 years old, Daniel was a successful donor of his liver, both kidneys and his pancreas. "We tell people that other than our faith in God, Daniel being a successful donor has been the greatest comfort we could have in the loss of our son," his family said.

    "Daniel's life was not lost, it was shared."

  • Portrait of Justin

    Justin

    It's a tragic scene no one wants to come upon, two SUVs collide, one wrecked beyond recognition.

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    It's a tragic scene no one wants to come upon, two SUVs collide, one wrecked beyond recognition. Passerby Justin was compelled to stop to try and help. He soon finds a 22- year-old woman fighting for her life. Justin, who family members describe as the "kind of guy always willing to help," jumped into action. While others looked on, he sat and held the young woman's hand encouraging her until her final breath. As news of the horrific accident spread, so did the unofficial naming of Justin as "The Good Samaritan."

    Sadly, just one month later, Justin himself was involved in a fatal motorcycle accident. Once again, his humanity for others was revealed. Knowing Justin's desire to help others, his family said yes when approached about the gift of organ donation. Justin saved four lives. For his family, knowing his legacy would continue, gave them strength to carry on.

    In December 2015, Justin's family met Radu, the man who received the heart of their hero. The meeting was full of tears, joy and hugs from all, including Justin's son. Justin's mom feels they could not have asked for a better recipient and are looking forward to visits with their new extended family.

  • Portrait of Cooper

    Cooper

    In August, 2014, a swimming accident took the life of young Cooper.

    Read story: Cooper

    In August, 2014, a swimming accident took the life of young Cooper. "Cooper was such a powerhouse. He was handsome, sweet, smart, athletic, and all boy - adventurous and a dare devil," said Cooper's mom Christine.

    A well-loved and popular kid, in his short 15 years he spread more love, laughter, and life than anyone could have ever imagined. So it was only natural he continue his incredible spirit and legacy through the gift of organ donation.

    "Truly, I had no idea the impact his gift of life would have," said Christine. "I simply knew that because he was Cooper he would have it no other way." Cooper's gifts gave five individuals a second chance at life and continues to inspire hope to the 11,000 Texans who continue to wait for a life-saving transplant.

  • Portrait of Dillon

    Dillon

    Dillon was 19 years old when he went to be with the Lord in Heaven in June of 2014 as the result of injuries sustained in an automobile accident.

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    Dillon was 19 years old when he went to be with the Lord in Heaven in June of 2014 as the result of injuries sustained in an automobile accident.

    Dillon was a friend with the ability to see good in all people. His love for family and for sports, especially the Texas Longhorns, were both admirable and contagious. "He always wanted to help those in need," said his father, Dale. "This was never more evident than when he voluntarily signed up to be organ donor."

    Dillon registered his decision to be an organ donor on his license at 16 years old, then again upon renewal at 18 years old. His gifts have improved the quality of life in seven people as well as countless others that received his eyes, bone and tissue.

    His parents have found comfort in their faith and knowing that his spirit lives on in the individuals who received as well as in their hearts.

  • Portrait of Robert "Bobby"

    Robert "Bobby"

    Donation and transplantation was nothing new for Robert, better known as "Bobby."

    Read story: Robert "Bobby"

    Donation and transplantation was nothing new for Robert, better known as "Bobby." One of his cousins was a transplant recipient. "He saw what a great difference it made in her quality of life," said Bobby's mother, Yvonne. "I knew this was what he would want."

    Bobby was a family man and loved spending time with his daughter, Cheyenne, and son, Davin and enjoyed his service as a San Antonio Police Officer for seven years and a member of the Honor Guard Division.

    Sadly, on December 8, 2013, while in pursuit of two suspects that had been committing armed robberies and terrorizing the south side of town, he sustained a head injury. He fought bravely for 12 days before succumbing to his injury in December of 2013.

    His act of heroism caught national news. His casket draped in honors only the brass of police recognized as "Hero" receive: a United States flag. Bobby is a "Hero" not only to his community but to those who received a second chance at life.

    His heart, kidneys and liver were donated.

  • Portrait of Jeramie

    Jeramie

    Jeramie was an 18-year-old high school senior, an athlete and band member.

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    Jeramie was an 18-year-old high school senior, an athlete and band member. He was involved in a fatal vehicle accident in March of 2003. "About two weeks prior to his death we were watching a Discovery program about organ donation," recalled Jeramie's mom, Sylvia. "During a commercial break my husband and I asked Jeramie his opinion, 'Would you consider donation?'"

    "Sure," he replied. "If I'm dead I don't need my organs anymore. Why not help someone else who needs them."

    Two weeks later they would be approached to consider donating Jeramie's organs. "Because Jeramie believed in organ donation," said Gabriel, Jeramie's dad, "our family was able to make the decision to give the gift of life."

    Jeramie's legacy is now a mission for the family as they encourage residents of the Rio Grande Valley to sign up as organ donors.

    You can see them driving through town in their white Chevy Tahoe with its distinctive decal on the back windshield. The decal is in the shape of a green ribbon that reads, "My son Jeramie saved five lives. Don't take your organs to heaven, heaven knows we need them here."

  • Portrait of Abby

    Abby

    Abby was a star basketball player in her town of Hidalgo.

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    Abby was a star basketball player in her town of Hidalgo. One evening in February of 2006 she played an amazing game - 19 baskets! But the excitement of the evening would be short-lived. On the way home with some friends the driver of the truck she was riding in lost control. Abby suffered severe head trauma. While in the hospital, her mom took note of her strong heart and asked Abby's dad if anything could be done to continue her legacy. Organ donation was the answer. Her parent's decision to donate allowed Abby to save six lives.

  • Portrait of Carson

    Carson

    Carson was born and raised in Austin.

    Read story: Carson

    Carson was born and raised in Austin. Best friends with his younger sister, he was creative, funny and was known for his compassionate heart. After graduating from Texas Christian University with a degree in Advertising, Carson headed to Los Angeles to pursue his dream of making movies. In January of 2012 Carson was out with friends when he was struck by a car while crossing the street. Recalling his compassionate heart, his parents said yes to giving the gift of life. "I know he would have wanted others to use his organs for life, when he no longer could," Melisa, Carson's mom, said. "It gives us a sense of peace knowing others have lived because of our son's gift."

  • Portrait of Scott

    Scott

    Scott died in August of 1998 at the age of nine after suffering a ruptured brain aneurysm.

    Read story: Scott

    Scott died in August of 1998 at the age of nine after suffering a ruptured brain aneurysm. Scott was a sweet and mischievous boy - the middle of three children. He had the most amazing eyes and thoroughly enjoyed life. "When it was clear that Scott would not pull through this tragedy we were approached about donating his organs. There was no hesitation in saying yes," said Scott's mom, Pam. In the midst of grief, Scott's parents hoped through donation another family would avoid experiencing the loss of a loved one. "Over time, I do get comfort in thinking that other families are celebrating another birthday, another Christmas because of Scott's gift" remarked Pam. Scott's organs saved five lives.

Share your story, when you are ready.

Donor family members, transplant recipients, and people waiting for a transplant can share their experience to honor donors and inspire others. Take part only when you feel ready.

Share your experience through our story submission portal. Include only the details you feel comfortable sharing and review the portal’s consent information before submitting.

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